Everyone compares. That's the truth. It's almost as if comparing is now a human natural instinct. Some do it on purpose some others don't. Between so many comparisons there are few that I call "positive comparison". Not that it's any better than any other type of comparison, but these comparisons are meant to make one feel the need to be better than oneself. Example given (and that's what e.g. stands for for those of you who don't know): Class A is doing better than Class B. I - we - get that a lot.
From the example I gave to you, I hope you already see how lame so-called "positive comparison" is. Everyone get it; the teacher wants the kids in Class B to improve so that they can match Class A, but more often than not, it only makes the Class B kids dislike the teacher. True story.
While the true intention of positive comparison is to move the compared one motivated to do better, it also implicitly states that there is something wrong with the compared one. Maybe it's one's method of studying, maybe it's one's way of applying makeup, maybe it's one's way of tying one's shoes, etc. And it's not nice. It's not nice and it's not motivating at all. If you raise your kids with this positive comparison hoping they'll grow some competitive character, yes, they will. But they will also likely to compare themselves, always feeling like they are worse when they see someone does it better, and they will see their own self worth only based on their ability of doing better than others. If you want your children to grow up into a person like that, go ahead. I personally don't.
And I personally don't like comparisons. Period.
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